After an interesting conversation with a bride-to-be this weekend, I'm starting to warm up to the idea of seating charts at Indian weddings. You see, I've always been anti-assigned seating - I just didn't think it would work or be fair at a desi party. Somehow someone would get upset that so-and-so aunty got a better seat, some wouldn't abide by the chart, and worse yet; some would come late to the party expecting a reserved seat. 

It seems that I might be wrong though, and many young brides and grooms are choosing to create a seating chart, especially for the reception. If you decide to go this route, here are some guidelines for getting you started. 

Talk to Both Sets of Parents
We all know that Indian weddings are not just about the bride and groom - they are all about family. Get thoughts from both of your parents and make sure they are on board with the idea before you finalize. (Plus, they'll know of any family politics and reasons not to seat people together).

Consider Distance Traveled
You might not know your Bhua from Bangalore or your Dad's friend from London very well, but if they've taken a cross Atlantic flight to attend your wedding, give them a good seat.

Mind the DJ and the Dance Floor
Try to seat older relatives a few rows away from the loud music, but not so far that they can't watch the young ones shaking a leg. 

Break-up Groups Evenly
If there is a family attending with 8 guests and you are only able to put 6 to a table, don't make 2 family members feel like castaways. Instead, split the family into two groups of 4 and then fill the tables with other people they might know.

Have Grace and Patience
By nature of the culture there will be people that won't understand or follow the chart, just let it go! Everything will work out in the end.